Relationship Wednesdays: When To Make A Move?
(1 Cent): Go For It!
I think that a lot of people spend too much time wondering if the person of their attention likes them back or not. Why not just make a move or express how you feel? Will it kill you to be open with things? It makes for a lot less sleepless nights.
This goes for both males and females alike. Guys: girls like when you're straightforward -- but not abrasive or annoying. If you're at a point where you've been "hanging out" and spending an abundant amount of time together while feeling that she may like you in that way, then why not just find out for sure? Unless you feel going "middle school" on her is the way to go -- going through friends or roommates, not making a move until they do, having a 'check yes or no if you like me' paper -- do something. Now, I'm not going to make a list of things you should do because every situation calls for, well, something different. Maybe some roses to open the date ... for others, perhaps a kiss on the cheek to say goodnight. A little extra effort will convey to the girl, "Okay, he seems to like me" and will get the ball rolling.
(2 Cent): Don't Be Shy
Now for the girls: guys don't think it's weird if the girl is a little aggressive (in a non-violent way). We won't think you're cheap and easy (pending on what you do) and it makes us guys feel that we're wanted. They can be little things that normally you wouldn't do too, like a text to ask how our day is going or holding on a couple seconds longer on a goodnight hug. I mean, c'mon, sometimes you gals don't even do anything and (dumb) guys think that you're flirting with them. It doesn't take much.
As previously mentioned, it doesn't take a big production to express that you like someone. If you think you need to rent a blimp with an electric scrolling marquee to say "I like you" then you are either, a) too rich and need to be my friend or, b) trying a tad too hard. The point is to find out if the potential love muffin is interested in the way you are -- to see if you're going to be 'just friends' or more. I say why put it off? If they do like you back in that way then great! Aren't you glad you went all Joey from Friends on her? If not, then at least you know for sure and don't have to spend every breakfast nervously poking at your Cheerios wondering.
(1/2 Cent): Send In Those Questions!
Have something on your mind? Have a question that you would like answered? Send those babies in via e-mail to HCP2007@gmail.com. It can be any type of relationship, whether a love interest, friend, co-worker, parents ... anything. I'll answer the best one(s) next Wednesday. Please title the e-mail heading: "Relationship Wednesdays."
**Disclaimer: HCP is not a certified Life Coach (yet), credentialed psychologist (yet), or psychic (at least not all the time). HCP is only giving out advice based upon his and friend's experiences and is intended as only that: advice. HCP is not responsible for anything bad that may result in following his advice -- but will take full credit if said outcome is positive. HCP will stop typing in third-person now.
I think that a lot of people spend too much time wondering if the person of their attention likes them back or not. Why not just make a move or express how you feel? Will it kill you to be open with things? It makes for a lot less sleepless nights.
This goes for both males and females alike. Guys: girls like when you're straightforward -- but not abrasive or annoying. If you're at a point where you've been "hanging out" and spending an abundant amount of time together while feeling that she may like you in that way, then why not just find out for sure? Unless you feel going "middle school" on her is the way to go -- going through friends or roommates, not making a move until they do, having a 'check yes or no if you like me' paper -- do something. Now, I'm not going to make a list of things you should do because every situation calls for, well, something different. Maybe some roses to open the date ... for others, perhaps a kiss on the cheek to say goodnight. A little extra effort will convey to the girl, "Okay, he seems to like me" and will get the ball rolling.
(2 Cent): Don't Be Shy
Now for the girls: guys don't think it's weird if the girl is a little aggressive (in a non-violent way). We won't think you're cheap and easy (pending on what you do) and it makes us guys feel that we're wanted. They can be little things that normally you wouldn't do too, like a text to ask how our day is going or holding on a couple seconds longer on a goodnight hug. I mean, c'mon, sometimes you gals don't even do anything and (dumb) guys think that you're flirting with them. It doesn't take much.
As previously mentioned, it doesn't take a big production to express that you like someone. If you think you need to rent a blimp with an electric scrolling marquee to say "I like you" then you are either, a) too rich and need to be my friend or, b) trying a tad too hard. The point is to find out if the potential love muffin is interested in the way you are -- to see if you're going to be 'just friends' or more. I say why put it off? If they do like you back in that way then great! Aren't you glad you went all Joey from Friends on her? If not, then at least you know for sure and don't have to spend every breakfast nervously poking at your Cheerios wondering.
(1/2 Cent): Send In Those Questions!
Have something on your mind? Have a question that you would like answered? Send those babies in via e-mail to HCP2007@gmail.com. It can be any type of relationship, whether a love interest, friend, co-worker, parents ... anything. I'll answer the best one(s) next Wednesday. Please title the e-mail heading: "Relationship Wednesdays."
**Disclaimer: HCP is not a certified Life Coach (yet), credentialed psychologist (yet), or psychic (at least not all the time). HCP is only giving out advice based upon his and friend's experiences and is intended as only that: advice. HCP is not responsible for anything bad that may result in following his advice -- but will take full credit if said outcome is positive. HCP will stop typing in third-person now.
posted by HCP @ 11:21 AM
1 Comments:
At 9:39 PM,
Trichotillomaniac said…
Something I'd really like is if she'd just tell me what she's thinkin'. Or is that not romantic enough? But so far between "I like you" and "eh... not, really" i'd probabily be running a straight 0 to 5... Not counting that, thing from the beach at Catalina, although... If I were to come out of the... naahhh. So, uh yeah, what do I know? Maybe it's better not to know? Ignorance is bliss. At least untill she doesn't return your phone calls. Something about having to pack for a 6 month missionary trip to an un-disclosed location in South America. Yeah, it's been 5 months now. She'll call back... in about a month...
I'm the type that thinks that if you've got something to say, SAY IT! Don't worry about my feelings. I don't, as evidence I'd like to point out that I did in fact ask you out! I'm tired of trying to decifer clues or pick up on the "Hwang Chii" vibes that eminate through sub-space on an anomalous metaphysic spiritual plane... What the,..., did I just say?
I hear ya on the hug there, but then I start to think, is this the "I never want to see you again but I feel sorry for you and may God have mercy on your soul" good night hug, or is it the "I like you" hug? Maybe I'm just a little schizophrenic or something?
Anyway that's my thinking. If that's o.k. with everyone...
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